Passing On His True Love’s Wedding Dress
Deciding what to do with the wedding gown of the love of your life after 58 years of marriage isn’t easy.
Two weeks ago, a gentleman stopped by the shop with a photo in his hand and posed a question. This encounter drew me to learn more about him and the love of his life, and this is where this month’s blog begins.
We chatted a bit. I told Lee that I have been offered many wedding gowns over the years, often with people looking to sell them. I really would have no use for used wedding gowns, but this encounter was different. Patricia’s gown style was “classic.” I felt with a little alteration to her gown, it could be worn today. I also loved the headpiece she wore and would love to have it, but in those days, headpieces often were shared between friends or passed down to other family members.
I posted an Instagram story about Lee’s visit to the shop. The interest and outpouring of love for his story were astounding, touching many followers. I knew they wanted to know more about Lee and the wedding gown stored for so many years. I asked if I could write an article about him to post to my blog, and he agreed.
Unboxing The Wedding Dress
Photography by Antonietta Henry Photography
Location Headpiece.com
Black and White Photography by Lorraine Studios
Lee’s initial visit to the shop was emotional. He was letting go and passing on a garment that had been a part of a significant day in his life: marrying Patricia Ellen.
Patricia’s gown was never professionally preserved. The box had been stored inside a wooden chest for many years. When we opened it, we found that the gown and crinoline slip were wrapped and safety pinned in a cotton sheet. The sheet was discolored and not in good condition, but I had great hope that it protected the gown enough.
Lee helped me put Patricia’s wedding gown on my mannequin. It fit perfectly, and I could button all the buttons on the back bodice. Lee shared some stories about his wedding day and life with Patricia. The wedding gown that had been packed away for so long came to life through recollections and cherished memories.
Lee and Pat dated for two years while he finished college and started working. Five months later, in November, he was drafted into the U.S. Army. By September, he received his commission as a second Lieutenant. He was stationed in Petersburg, Virginia, and took the bus home every week to see Patricia.
I asked Lee if he recalled any emotions or memories of seeing Patricia walk down the aisle.
Lee’s story was filled with emotion, love for his wife, and bits of wisdom. These days, we don’t often hear of marriages lasting 50 years or more. But when we do, we can find value in lived experiences and seek the secret to a long and happy marriage.
What is so interesting about this story is that I had previously scheduled an in-store photoshoot with Antonietta Henry in celebration of our 25th year in business, but who knew how life’s serendipity would circle for this very special photoshoot?
When I first saw the Headpiece.com Instagram story with a photo of Lee Cahill, I quickly messaged Marie that I knew him! When she told me the Pequannock magazine article about her shop motivated him to bring his beloved wife Pat’s wedding dress in, I was filled with emotion, but for several reasons. Lee’s late wife was one of my mother’s dear friends. Mom always described Pat as one of the funniest people she ever met. I distinctly remember them laughing so hard together over the years, the type of laughter that renders you silent. Mom always commented on what a beautiful relationship Pat and Lee had and how in love they were. I noticed it too, even at my young age back then. As you read this beautiful blog, you will also bear witness to the immense respect and love Lee had, and still has, for his lovely Pat.
So what is to become of Patricia’s wedding dress?
See you next month on the Fourteenth